EP. 093: What 34 Years Of Marriage Has Taught Us With Jamie & Aaron Ivey

“To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse….”
I’m curious! 
Were you the person who always fantasized about meeting your prince charming? Dreamed of your wedding day since you were a little girl?! Maybe had every detail planned out down to the dress, flowers, and venue long before you ever even met your spouse.
Or perhaps you were the complete opposite! Not really knowing if you ever really wanted to settle down and get married. 
Either way, it’s quite possible that the relationships you have witnessed around you have impacted your view of relationships and marriage. 
Married or not, many of us bring our ‘baggage’ into our relationships based solely on what we witness and our own previous experiences… not the person with whom we are with. 
If you are married, let me ask you…
  • Do you feel like your marriage is stuck in a rut?
  • Do you feel like you and your spouse are never on the same page?
  • Do you want a flourishing and vibrant marriage, but are unsure how the heck to get there?!
If you answered ‘yes’ to at least one of the questions above, then you, my friend, are going to love our conversation today!
I am so THRILLED for today’s guests Jamie and Aaron Ivey, to talk about their new book Complement which is ALL about the ways we can complement, not complete each other in our relationships, specifically in marriage. 
Life is hard. Jobs change,  loss of income happens, health can be a rollercoaster, children need all of your attention. You are SO busy reacting to everything around you, that you are left burned out, with no time for your spouse.
SO. What are you supposed to do to achieve that vibrant healthy marriage that you were expecting when you said ‘I do’?

One of the biggest things to remember is that: you and your spouse have a common enemy.

Satan wants to destroy and divide.
That’s right friends. Even in the middle of the biggest fight, your spouse is not the actual enemy. It’s Satan. 
So, when you feel like you are being pulled in different directions. When you feel like you are on separate teams. When you feel like you aren’t doing life together in partnership anymore:
Develop a shared mission for your marriage.
This mission will be your KEY to marching forward together even when you feel like you are being pulled apart. 
The Iveys shared theirs: We are called to love Jesus and called to help other people meet Jesus and experience His love. 
Pretty powerful, huh? 

This mission keeps you on the same team.

It keeps you working towards a common goal. It keeps you in unity with your spouse.
Jamie and Aaron share SO much wisdom in today’s episode where we also talk about:
  • The dangerous trap of why it becomes so easy to stop pursing your spouse after marriage
  • The distorted cultural views of submission, servanthood, and leadership within a marriage while offering a better view of a healthy, godly marriage
  • The purpose of marriage as the Scripture relates it while tackling topics such as family mission, sex, leadership, fighting, and forgiveness
  • The keys to build a satisfying and lasting marriage
  • Ways to serve and love your spouse from a place of overflow rather than a place of selfishness or fear
Friends, marriage takes work. Baby steps. Intentionality. Patience. 
If you are ready for God to redeem and restore your marriage, then I can’t wait for you to listen to today’s episode!
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